How do you bounce back after being scammed?

I’ve been in the bowl for years and had some really amazing SDs, some I am still very close to. It’s always been a great place for me to have honest connections. I’m gainfully employed so the gifts are just bonus and make me feel special. In return I only have authentic relationships and give all my energy to my SD. With this man I should have known: he wasn’t super open about his life details and it became apparent he wanted to do hotel middle of the day only (I know I know). He sent me PayPals after several dates in varying amounts and I didn’t really care when it was less. Months later these charges are disputed and I’m having to respond to the claims. I just feel dirty now like it’s ruined sugaring. I just got completely used by this man for sex.

I struggle because I enjoy intimacy and this taboo nature, but when it turns ugly like this I feel so bitter and disgusted in men and this lack of class in the bowl. I know I didn’t vet this one well enough or listen to the red flags. I also know some of my former SDs are leaving the bowl due to scams. So how do you bounce back and get confidence in yourself and the bowl again?