Cold parenting is breaking my heart

I am asian. My husband and I moved back to the US to start our family. We have a 4 week old baby and I'm so tired of doing things the "American way" but I am so anxious and so tired to even "fight" for how i think we should treat our baby.

Ie. Where I'm from we cosleep . Here baby sleep in their own crib with hard mattress and what I call "baby straight jacket " aka swaddle.

Let baby cry . My brain hurts. My heart breaks every time.

I am currently watching my baby through a monitor as she whines and try to sleep on her own.

No we don't let her cry too long. No longer than 5 cries. Haha but still. Idk .