Nothing will ever make my adult daughter like me. The only reason she wants a relationship with me is to insult me.
I’ve posted here before about my (young) adult daughter, basically I made a lot of mistakes and she was raised by my parents after I had her when I was 19, and has spent most of her life several states away, we were mostly no contact at the time, I’ve been to therapy and am working on myself. I’ve left her alone and figured she would come to me on her own terms. After my post, I thought we were turning a tide. My daughter called me right after Christmas for the first time in over a year, very emotional because she broke up with her girlfriend; and just needed someone to talk to. From there, we started talking somewhat regularly, but never really about our relationship/her childhood. Out of nowhere in may, she started bringing it up and would throw in subtle dogs about how I abandoned her, and than last month, I got married. Due to my own mistake, she found out over Facebook before I could tell her myself, from there it all went downhill, ever since my daughter will only talk to me over text, she told me last week that the only reason she started talking to me Egan is so she could tell me how horrible of a mother I am and how much I hurt her. Yesterday, she started erratically posting on Facebook about me and airing out all of our family drama, and commenting all over my Facebook about how I didn’t raise her. I’ve just ignored it because I think it’s a bit obvious she wants attention. (Example: she commented “Must be nice to be the child our mother wanted!” on a picture I posted of my younger daughter.
How should I handle this? Let her know I won’t be able to talk to her until she can be civil? Just ignore it? Block her? I’m afraid if I block her, she’ll just feel further emboldened to perpetuate the myth I abandoned her.