ENFJ relationship style?

How do you guys usually act when you like someone? I kind of have a bad experience with my ex (not enfj) from him losing feelings for me overtime, and im afraid my current partner (enfj) will be like that too. I think I tend to attach to someone more and obsess over them more as I spend more time with them, and I hope enfjs are like that too.

Also, are you guys good with handling conflict? I feel like when I tell my enfj partner how I was upset over something they get more upset that they made me upset than me. And I kinda feel bad to even ask for reassurance or talk about it bc they sound so sad😭. But I really have to just talk ab it and communicate when Im upset.. so idk how i would tell them next time without making them upset (i didn’t curse or anything I was being very straightforward)