What were the subtle signs of emotional neglect that you didn’t recognize until you were older?

I didn’t realize how much emotional neglect I experienced growing up until I was older. There were so many little things that I thought were normal at the time, but now I can see how they were signs of neglect.

• No one to talk to: Whenever something was wrong, I couldn’t really talk to anyone about it. If I tried, I was either ignored or told to “just get over it.” It made me feel like my feelings didn’t matter.
• Emotional distance: My parents were around, but not really there. We didn’t talk about emotions or connect on a deeper level. I felt like I was on my own with everything.
• "Figure it out yourself": Whenever I was struggling or feeling down, I was always told to handle it myself. I never felt like I had the support I needed, especially as a kid.

These things hurt me more than I realized back then, and it’s only now, as an adult, that I understand how much it affected me. It’s tough to face, but at least I can start healing from it now.

Anyone else relate to this? What were the little things you didn’t notice as emotional neglect until later?