Why do people ask when I’m having another one

9 weeks pp and the amount of times I’ve been asked when the next one’s coming or telling me I need to have x amount more is absolutely absurd.

The day after I gave birth my mil asked when the next one was and that she expects 4 more.. absolutely not.

I know I’m still in the trenches but I think I’m one and done. My fiance agrees we just don’t see ourselves having another. I had a really rough pregnancy and postpartum experience and I don’t want to go through it again. And we want to spoil our baby girl and we want her to be our only child.

Maybe we’ll change our minds in a few years but constantly being asked when the next one is going to be when we have a newborn is so annoying. Its sad that they can’t just appreciate the baby in front of them and I’m sure they don’t mean any harm and are just excited but when you’re sleep deprived with a newborn, the last thing you want to think about is another.