How do yall get a girlfriend that quickly??

I’m 21M and I’m still a virgin. I see all my friends (18-20yo) and almost all the others on my campus get into relationships. I never cared for it up until my mom brought this girl home.

We started talking and after 1month and 1week I told her that I want her to be my girlfriend. She said she saw no point in us being together as she was about to move to boarding school (which is 1h away from my home by commuter train so not much)

So after she said that I cried for days because it’s the first time that I ever felt loved and appreciated in my life.

Thats when I started questionning my friends and other people around my campus. Turns out they all had at least a relationship since at 18-19yo. Then I realised that I needed to get out there and talk to people.

Ive asked out at least 19 girls in my campus and got savagely rejected by some of them and softly rejected by the rest of them. Thing is some ramdon guy did the same thing to one of the girls I asked out anf she said yes almost immeadiatley. And the worst part is all the other girls I tried asking out went with a random she chatted up with on the streets or on campus.

That was the lowest point of my life. I kept on crying and injuring myself to the point of getting the ER involved a couple of times.

So yeah my mom fucked up my mental health by bringing a girl home until she got a boarding school. And that’s the biggest betrail or mistake she could ever have done.

Now I’ve started focusing on my skincare and my style. I’ve found a bit of joy doing that (but I’m still deeply broken inside)

Lil about me:

-I’m natually very shy and uncomfortable with new people for the first couple of weeks after meeting them for the first time. - I panic really quickly and lose almost all my speech abilites when meeting new people or even friends I havent seen in a while.

  • i see alot of people (irl and on social media) saying if you’re not 6”0 and above, its over for you. Well guess what I’m exactly 6”0 and I’ve never had a girl approach me (except for the girl my mom brought home).

And yeah thats about it. Just needed to vent it out.