Transness and tanha

I’d like to preface this by saying I’m not a buddhist but that buddhism deeply interests me, mainly because of the way it conceptualizes the universe and the gods and the ritualistic aspects of it.

However i have some issues with what i currently view to be buddhist philosophy and so hopefully by discussing it with buddhists my misunderstandings can be ironed out.

One of my main problems comes from how buddhism conceptualizes thirst/craving/desire/tanha and how that relates to being trans. So gender dysphoria can largely be labeled under tanha as it is a desire that leads to unpleasant mental states and thereby dukkha, right? However wouldn’t transitioning be considered giving into materialistic desires and from a buddhist perspective bad because it would dissuade from following the dharma by giving a trans person impermanent, samsaric happiness? Beyond that, doesn’t one have to abandon gender identity to become enlightened? Like the soma sutta says, “One to whom it might occur, 'I'm a woman' or 'I'm a man' Or 'I'm anything at all' — Is fit for Mara to address”. Isn’t transitioning clinging to an impermanent identity and therefore to be avoided entirely, in favor of complete disassociation from your present body? Isn’t disgust towards your present body something a dharma practitioner should cultivate?

Thanks in advance. As a trans woman myself, this philosophical question has been bothering me.