weird things men expect from me once I tell them I’m trans?

I’m post op and have been transitioned for a good while. I’ve had pretty bad experiences with men in general so I’ve taken a break which has definitely allowed me to reflect on the few dates and 1 “relationship” I’ve had in my life. All of these interactions with men were done when I was already post op because I was too crippled by dysphoria to date with that parasitic thing attached to me. But once I told these men I was trans after a good bit of talking, the ones who didn’t leave got all strange. Hell if you can believe it, one of them fucking told me we could be bros now?? (Obviously I blocked him immediately after but seriously wtf..) I went on another 2 dates with a seemingly sweet man, one before he knew I was trans and 1 after. The first date was really really really nice, we connected, he was a gentleman, we had a lot of similar interests and I was very intrigued by him. But then come the second date which was a bit difficult to plan because he kept pushing the date back, he was a bit more idk the word to use like distant. He also stopped with all the flowery gentleman stuff and no longer bothered to hold doors and even asked me to split the check with him which was a bit disappointing in contrast to the fun date we had last time. From there I would text and he would take longer and longer to answer and from there I kind of just figured I’d give up chasing this guy who couldn’t care less about me. I don’t know why this stuff happens but it’s really sad when the second a guy finds out, it’s like an immediate switch to treat me like desperate trash or something. I’ve been doing better and I’ve decided to just not focus on men for a very very long time. Just not worth it. I have standards and I’m not gonna settle for a guy who thinks I’m his “bro”. Sorry for the rant just been reflecting a lot and I was wondering if you guys have similar experiences