Feeling lonely in my Marriage (how to cope)

Hey everyone … as u know it’s week of love, Valentine’s Day and everything… things are a bit gloomy on my end. Me (29F) and my husband (35M) had made plans for Valentine’s week since his work doesn’t allow us to spend much time together

For context - his work keeps him ultra busy. It’s over 100 calls a day, 12hrs of laptop work, constant meetings and chaos (he owns and runs the company). I do know about his hard work and hustle and I am very proud of him… but somewhere I feel drowned out into the background.

So for this week we decided to spend time. Since first week of January this year he has been on constant travel. Week in Africa, a week in couple cities around India all in different states, Thailand, Philippines (places where he has clients and projects) before yall say he’s cheating - I am aware of his projects and client meetings (so that’s 90% doubt gone). So whole of January and half of February, I met my husband (of 8months) for only about 2-3 days.

Now my love language is basically spending time together, old school love, hopeless romantic and stuff like that. I love having him around expressing his love to me, surprising me or do those little things that give u butterflies. On the other hand he is the silent type of dude who struggles with expressing love, hates surprises and is VERY practical. He’s the brain and I’m the heart of the relationship :P

Before getting married (when we were crazy close girlfriend-boyfriend madly in love dating phase) he used to talk about how he will take me around with him when he’s on his business trips. He used to say even if work, I’ll keep you by my side (now he did so for first 4 months of the marriage) but things got more hectic and his schedules became very erratic. So he stopped taking me around. So almost 10 days out of a month he’s gone. But since Jan he’s been gone for almost a month and half now.

It’s our first Valentine’s week/day as a married couple and had things planned out. Turns out he had an urgent meeting and had to leave. And poof he was gone. All plans cancelled all things down the drain. I was heartbroken but I keep myself strong because I decided to support a man of high integrity and values.

Thing is… he doesn’t call much, or text. He talks a lot about his work whenever he calls me (and I intently listen because I know I have to support his passion) but never talks about us (my passion). We don’t say ‘I love you’s’ much anymore, the spark is gone. He never asks me about me or us. Never talks about our plans together. It’s usually excited calls about his business adventures. There’s no cute talk, naughty talk, jokes, fun stuff. It’s just serious business stuff. I am a very emotional person and I need validation (I know it’s wrong). I’d love to know how much he loves me or how much I mean to him since we are kinda in a long distance marriage.

(Currently im in an emotional argument with myself over how I need to be more patient and to stop overthinking and being over clingy. How I should stop trying to keep calling and texting him and stuff like that)

I feel very sad and lonely seeing other couples and regular married folks enjoying and having fun. Jokes, laughter, warmth and love …. I miss it. And I wish I could have it too.

How would you cope? And what do you suggest I do to cope?

(TLDR- Amazing hardworking husband, busy in life, wife suffering from loneliness, husband is avoidant type, wife is dependent romantic, how to cope?)