Why do people find me “intense”?

In my work, my pursuits, my hobbies, I would consider myself somewhat intense—I like to keep busy, I do a lot of things, I enjoy finding new things to do and learning more. But recently, I’ve had a lot of close friends call me intense, in ways that I don’t quite understand. I feel like some of my friends have been creating distance, recently and, perhaps, because of it, and I want to understand what makes me come across so intense?

For example, I recently had a friendship breakup. She was really kind about it—it was incredibly cordial, she clarified that she valued me and it wasn’t who I am as a person, but that it was more so about our energies conflict, and she felt she couldn’t always be herself around me. I had kind of sensed it; throughout our friendship, I thought I had provided her that space, and listened and supported her, but I could tell that sometimes our time was more opaque, or not always there. I’ve also had people say they don’t like the tone I use with them, when using my typical speaking voice.

I know the Capricorn moon, Aries rising, Jupiter and Pluto opposition, 1h Saturn are a lot… but I want to hear from an outside perspective. What makes people pull back? I feel like there’s always this barrier, and I want to work towards dismantling that.

In my work, my pursuits, my hobbies, I would consider myself somewhat intense—I like to keep busy, I do a lot of things, I enjoy finding new things to do and learning more. But recently, I’ve had a lot of close friends call me intense, in ways that I don’t quite understand. I feel like some of my friends have been creating distance, recently and, perhaps, because of it, and I want to understand what makes me come across so intense?

For example, I recently had a friendship breakup. She was really kind about it—it was incredibly cordial, she clarified that she valued me and it wasn’t who I am as a person, but that it was more so about our energies conflict, and she felt she couldn’t always be herself around me. I had kind of sensed it; throughout our friendship, I thought I had provided her that space, and listened and supported her, but I could tell that sometimes our time was more opaque, or not always there. I’ve also had people say they don’t like the tone I use with them, when using my typical speaking voice.

I know the Capricorn moon, Aries rising, Jupiter and Pluto opposition, 1h Saturn are a lot… but I want to hear from an outside perspective. What makes people pull back? I feel like there’s always this barrier, and I want to work towards dismantling that.